The Masters-Johnson method
This method cures the vast majority of men, provided that both partners are keen to co-operate (which isn't always the case). It is based on a special 'penis grip' developed by the American therapists Masters and Johnson.
The finger-grip abolishes the desire to climax, so if, under careful instruction, the couple use it over a period of weeks, they can usually re-train the man so he can last much longer.
What does it involve?
o Your partner places her hand so that her thumb is on one side of the man's erect penis (the nearer side to her when she is facing him).
o Her index and middle fingers are on the other side.
o The index finger is just above the ridge of the glans (the 'head'), while the middle finger is just below the ridge.
o When the man feels that he's near to a climax, he tells his partner.
o She then squeezes his shaft firmly between her thumb and the other two fingers. (Don't worry: it's painless!)
The programme and the grip can work for male couples as well as for heterosexual ones.
The Masters and Johnson grip really needs to be demonstrated to you personally by an expert. Most couples who try to learn it from the Internet or a book get it wrong.
Other methods:
- local anaesthetic gel:We do not advise using this gel because the local anaesthetic can 'dull' the sex sensation for your partner. It can also cause a distressing skin reaction in either partner, with intense itching, redness and soreness.
- long love condoms:They contain a local anaesthetic inside it. But there is still problem with sensitivity reaction
- antidepressant drugs:This is for very heavy cases - but these drugs is very powerful and have a considerable list of potential side-effects. You will need also a prescription.
Stop-start technique:
* The man is encouraged to masturbate alone.
* He is asked to set time aside to be private and to masturbate with dry hands.
* The man is encouraged to masturbate almost to the point of ejaculation and then stop.
* He should do this three times.
* On the fourth time, he is permitted to ejaculate.
After he has achieved this measure of control, he can try masturbating with a wet hand, which will feel more like the inside of a vagina. He is encouraged to do the stop-start technique as before.